Tuesday, June 17, 2014

7 Common Premature Ejaculation & Erectile Dysfunction Distractions

When it comes to solving sexual problems including premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and the inability to orgasm, strategy is everything. The better the strategies you have in place to deal with the distractions contributing to your problems, the better your control during sex will be.

There are several distractions which can occur in tandem with any of the aforementioned problems. This article addresses seven common distractions which can cause you to lose your ability to maintain your erection, lose control and ejaculate early, or lose your ability to orgasm during intercourse.

1. Something as simple as feeling too hot during sex can make you lose your erection or ejaculate before you or your partner are ready. It can also be so distracting, that you are unable to orgasm. So what is your strategy if the temperature is warm? BEFORE you have sex, open a window to let the air in... if it's really hot, make love on top of the sheets. If it's cold, heat the room. Stay in control of the temperature, to help stay in control in bed.

2. Feeling tired? Working long hours? Let's face it, sex takes a LOT of energy. If you work long hours, it can be either difficult for you to get an erection or challenging to keep your focus on the sexual act to maintain control over your arousal.

If you're constantly feeling tired begin eliminating sugar as well as sugar substitutes from your diet, as well as food preservatives. These all contribute to brain fog, which you guessed it - make you feel tired! This applies to sugar-laden drinks as well.

Eat more protein and green leafy veges - and drink plenty of purified water to naturally increase your energy levels and your ability to focus correctly during sex.

3. Partner doesn't want sex This is a topic I could write a complete article on! When a man has a sexual problem, he is usually more focused on worrying about his problem during sex, than actually providing emotional as well as sexual fulfilment for his partner. If a woman doesn't feel emotionally fulfilled during sex, then she doesn't want to have more sex.

4. To reduce performance anxiety and improve your emotional connection with your partner, make the sexual act less about you and more about your partner, taking care of her emotional, physical and sexual needs. Be more concerned about how arousing and sexy she is to increase your erection then focus on the mechanics of attending to her needs to increase your control.

5. She starts losing interest during sex If your woman loses interest during sex, it means you've lost focus and are worrying about your problem! Your conscious mind can only focus on one task at a time, so if most of your focus is on your woman, you will spend less time worrying about keeping your erection and staying in control and more time focused on attending to her needs.

6. Frequently changing sexual positions Can cause you to lose focus and lose control. The best sexual position gives you more flexibility when stroking your partner, keeps you perfectly balanced and provides a stronger emotional connection with your partner to help her naturally become more orgasmic.

7. Move the lube! Lube is an essential ingredient for pleasurable sex. It makes for a nice, smooth entry to protect the delicate folds of skin around a woman's vagina and makes it much easier to slide back in if you happen to fall out during intercourse. If you use desensitizing lube with an ED problem, you're guaranteed to kill your erection so be wise in your lube choice. Make sure you keep your tube of lube near the bed - because if you have to go looking for it, the distraction can make you lose your erection or lose control.

Other distractions... If you are worried about your finances, your relationship, a family member, your job or any of life's many distractions, you will find it challenging to focus on the sexual act. Every distraction you have contributes to your inability to focus correctly and makes you less able to control your sexual experiences.

The main factor in sexual problems is incorrect focus which means you are focusing on the wrong thing, at the wrong time - and accidentally activating the wrong program in your brain!

Learning the correct order of how your brain works (in layman's terms) can enable you to eradicate episodes of premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and being unable to orgasm - so you can gain control over the sexual act.

Jacqui Olliver
The Technique Modifier at End the Problem

Providing the missing link for solving sex problems and gaining sexual mastery, Jacqui is the "go to" person for doctors and relationship therapists to send clients to, to solve sexual dysfunction and sexual performance issues. 

Sessions available online via Skype and in her clinic in Auckland, New Zealand.

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  1. I've been working late hours for last couple of months and it is affecting my sex life. My wife is really not happy with my performance. But after reading this I feel that I can overcome my problem... Feel much more confident now. Thanks Jacqui!

    1. I'm glad you found some value in this post. Keep in touch and let me know how you get on. Also feel free to ask any questions.