Fifty Shades of Grey - is Sex Really That Exciting?

Well, that depends. It depends on whether or not you are able to orgasm and it also depends upon the quality of your partner's sexual technique and his (or her) ability to fulfill you. Unfortunately for at least one in three women, sex falls into the "frequently disappointed" basket. These women will return home after the Fifty Shades of Grey movie desperately hoping that THIS time sex will suddenly be mutually fulfilling for both her and her partner instead of tedious and boring. This is an unlikely event.

Sex is as much about giving as it is receiving. Problems occur when either partners have a sex problem such as being unable to orgasm, or for men ejaculating early or being unable to gain or keep a hard erection. When any of these problems are present, sex is more about both partners enduring the act, rather than actually enjoying it.

Statistics show that 80% of women find it difficult to orgasm during intercourse. Is this because of their partner's sex problem or their own lack of understanding in the technique required to reach climax? Achieving regular orgasms through intercourse as well as foreplay isn't rocket science. But you've got to understand how your sexual programs work - and how to keep them properly activated during sex.

If your partner has one of the aforementioned problems you are more likely to be analyzing your lack of fulfilment during sex and this, unfortunately, makes it impossible for you to achieve orgasm. If you are enjoying the intense sensations then start asking yourself, "Is it? Is it? Is it happening now?" then I can guarantee it isn't, because you just cancelled out the orgasm program in your brain.

By the way, female ejaculation isn't a myth, again, it is a technique. Whether you want to be able to experience multiple orgasms and/or multiple episodes of female ejaculation during all of your sexual encounters, first you must understand how to control the sexual programs via your brain. Achieving orgasm requires a step by step process which must be followed sequentially. This enables you to keep your sexual programs activated and advancing to completion.

So is Fifty Shades of Grey going to motivate you to learn how to take charge of your sexual programs so you can orgasm on demand? Probably. Life is way too short to settle for unfulfilling sex.

Jacqui Olliver, the Technique Modifier at EndTheProblem.com teaches men, women and couples the ultimate strategy behind achieving consistently great sex. Weak erections, early ejaculation and being unable to orgasm can all be easily corrected with her unique treatment method recommended by leading medical specialists.

Book a session with her - the majority of her clients report solving their problem and improving their sex life after just one session.

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Erectile Dysfunction: Know the Causes, Symptoms and Cures

Erectile dysfunction, which is also commonly known as impotency, occurs when a male loses his ability to obtain or maintain an erection in order to perform and enjoy sexual intercourse. In recent years, the condition has become extremely common amongst men of all ages, while research has revealed that at least 1 in 3 men suffer from some form of erectile dysfunction or impotence.

Erectile dysfunction was generally considered to only affect men who are older in age especially common amongst those who were over the age of 70. More recently it has become a big problem for middle aged as well men as young as in their 20s. Many doctors have suggested that the stress that is present in everyday life, along with the frenetic and hectic lifestyles lived by most people have led to the rise of erectile dysfunction cases amongst men.

That is the reason why it’s important that every man recognizes the symptoms and causes of erectile dysfunction so that they can safely get their condition cured.

What is Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is the inability to hold or sustain an erection to perform sexual intercourse. The drop in testosterone levels in men over 35 years has generally been considered the primary factor in erectile dysfunction. Loss of libido is another reason why men may not be able to gain an erection at will, whilst drugs and some medical conditions have also known to cause erectile dysfunction or impotence in men.

Symptoms for Erectile Dysfunction

When you are dealing with erectile dysfunction the first and foremost symptom that you are going to recognize is obviously your inability to either sustain an erection or initially achieve it. Although in some rare cases ED is only a temporary issue it’s not a good idea to wait long term before you decide to seek help.

You should be concerned if you are trying to achieve an erection for sexual intercourse and are repeatedly failing in achieving it. Erectile dysfunction plays a big role in creating psychological issues for men as well as their partner, leading to depression, guilt, low self-esteem and low sex-drive. Men who are unable to have sex and please their partner in bed may start feeling inadequate which worsens the condition and can make it a permanent one.

Certain medical conditions can also lead to erectile dysfunction. You may generally see the symptoms of ED if you are diagnosed with thyroid conditions, diabetes, or if you have high blood pressure.

Identifying the causes of Erectile Dysfunction

In order to gain an erection you need to be aroused sexually. So it is a very complex process, which involves blood vessels, nerves, muscles, emotions, hormones, your thoughts and your brain. Any malfunction at any stage of the process may result in erectile dysfunction. Some of the most common causes for erectile dysfunction are exhaustion, stress and psychological issues, which can contribute to anxiety and make it harder for you to achieve and maintain a strong erection.

In general, any condition that stops the flow of blood to the penis can cause erectile dysfunction. The condition is also caused by aging, but there are other causes as well. These are physical causes of erectile dysfunction which you should get checked out:

• High blood pressure
• Multiple sclerosis
• Low testosterone
• Diabetes
• Heart disease
• Parkinson’s disease
• Smoking
• Spinal cord or brain injuries
• Prostrate treatments
• Prescription drugs
• Alcoholism or drug addiction
• Bladder surgery

Medical specialists believe that the majority of erectile dysfunction cases are mostly caused by disease, whilst side effects from drugs account for around 25 percent of erectile dysfunction cases. However, due to many younger men in good health reporting erectile dysfunction and loss of erection hardness there may be other factors in play.

Men often confuse low libido or loss of sex drive with erectile dysfunction, however it is not the same condition, although one affects the other. Mistakenly these problems can be interpreted as male menopause. Age itself, does not cause erectile dysfunction.

The Cures for Erectile Dysfunction

In order to cure erectile dysfunction, it is suggested that you ditch the drugs and medications and go down the route of natural cures. The main standard treatments for erectile dysfunction include certain lifestyle changes, which includes the likes of:

• Quitting alcohol
• Getting sober from drugs
• Stop smoking
• Losing weight

There are also penile vacuum pumps which can be placed on the penis in order to pull blood into it, although these can cause bruising and general discomfort.

The best natural approach to cure the symptoms and causes of erectile dysfunction is to address the major contributing factors which generally include muscle weakness and incorrect psychological focus.

Read More: Understanding Differences among Erectile Dysfunction Patients Globally

Why is Good Sex So Important? Media interview with Jacqui Olliver from End the Problem

Jacqui Olliver from End the Problem being interviewed by Gerard Smith from The Beat Goes On. During this interview, we discuss the challenges faced by men and women as both partners struggle to overcome sex problems.

Early ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, being unable to orgasm and vaginal dryness after menopause are some of the topics we cover. Why we feel put off (or we inadvertently put our partner off) having sex - and why the male and female libido decreases when any of these challenges are invading our sex life.



Get more great insights from Jacqui's blog www.EndTheProblem.com including why performance anxiety is making you lose control in bed.

Jacqui Olliver
The Technique Modifier at End the Problem

Providing the missing link for solving sex problems and gaining emotional mastery, Jacqui is the "go to" person for doctors and relationship therapists to send clients to, to solve anxiety, sexual dysfunction and sexual performance issues.

Sessions available online via Skype and in her clinic in Auckland, New Zealand.

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Cure for Premature Ejaculation

If you're trying to find a cure for premature ejaculation, be careful of where you get your information from. Many sites offer medications and potions for solving PE, but they don't actually address the root of the problem (pardon the pun).

Numbing creams can overcomplicate the sexual act, by removing all pleasure from you as well as your partner. Not only do these creams desensitize the feelings in your penis (and your partner's vagina) they can also cause you to ejaculate earlier - because your mind is constantly in your penis trying to figure out if the numbing cream is working!

If you try not to think about your penis, well, that's like me telling you not to think about a black car. What picture immediately comes to mind? A black car. That's exactly what happens with your penis.

The biggest cause of premature ejaculation is leaving your mind in your penis. In other words you are constantly thinking about your penis and over analysing how well it is working. When your mind is constantly focused in the workings of your member it is impossible to stay in control of the sexual act.

Any medications you take for your early ejaculation problem put your mental focus on your penis - either that, or they have such horrific side effects including ice cream headaches and genital itching, you wonder about the efficacy of using such medications.

After all, you and your partner just want sex to be enjoyable, right? The permanent cure for premature ejaculation involves understanding how to gauge your level of arousal so you can start braking your vehicle before you lose control. But you have to learn how to be precise with your braking - because if you brake too hard, it can cause you to lose your erection.

Jacqui Olliver

The Technique Modifier at End the Problem

Providing the missing link for solving sex problems and gaining sexual mastery, Jacqui is the "go to" person for doctors and relationship therapists to send clients to, to solve sexual dysfunction and sexual performance issues. 

Sessions available online via Skype and in her clinic in Auckland, New Zealand.

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7 Common Premature Ejaculation & Erectile Dysfunction Distractions

When it comes to solving sexual problems including premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and the inability to orgasm, strategy is everything. The better the strategies you have in place to deal with the distractions contributing to your problems, the better your control during sex will be.

There are several distractions which can occur in tandem with any of the aforementioned problems. This article addresses seven common distractions which can cause you to lose your ability to maintain your erection, lose control and ejaculate early, or lose your ability to orgasm during intercourse.

1. Something as simple as feeling too hot during sex can make you lose your erection or ejaculate before you or your partner are ready. It can also be so distracting, that you are unable to orgasm. So what is your strategy if the temperature is warm? BEFORE you have sex, open a window to let the air in... if it's really hot, make love on top of the sheets. If it's cold, heat the room. Stay in control of the temperature, to help stay in control in bed.

2. Feeling tired? Working long hours? Let's face it, sex takes a LOT of energy. If you work long hours, it can be either difficult for you to get an erection or challenging to keep your focus on the sexual act to maintain control over your arousal.

If you're constantly feeling tired begin eliminating sugar as well as sugar substitutes from your diet, as well as food preservatives. These all contribute to brain fog, which you guessed it - make you feel tired! This applies to sugar-laden drinks as well.

Eat more protein and green leafy veges - and drink plenty of purified water to naturally increase your energy levels and your ability to focus correctly during sex.

3. Partner doesn't want sex This is a topic I could write a complete article on! When a man has a sexual problem, he is usually more focused on worrying about his problem during sex, than actually providing emotional as well as sexual fulfilment for his partner. If a woman doesn't feel emotionally fulfilled during sex, then she doesn't want to have more sex.

4. To reduce performance anxiety and improve your emotional connection with your partner, make the sexual act less about you and more about your partner, taking care of her emotional, physical and sexual needs. Be more concerned about how arousing and sexy she is to increase your erection then focus on the mechanics of attending to her needs to increase your control.

5. She starts losing interest during sex If your woman loses interest during sex, it means you've lost focus and are worrying about your problem! Your conscious mind can only focus on one task at a time, so if most of your focus is on your woman, you will spend less time worrying about keeping your erection and staying in control and more time focused on attending to her needs.

6. Frequently changing sexual positions Can cause you to lose focus and lose control. The best sexual position gives you more flexibility when stroking your partner, keeps you perfectly balanced and provides a stronger emotional connection with your partner to help her naturally become more orgasmic.

7. Move the lube! Lube is an essential ingredient for pleasurable sex. It makes for a nice, smooth entry to protect the delicate folds of skin around a woman's vagina and makes it much easier to slide back in if you happen to fall out during intercourse. If you use desensitizing lube with an ED problem, you're guaranteed to kill your erection so be wise in your lube choice. Make sure you keep your tube of lube near the bed - because if you have to go looking for it, the distraction can make you lose your erection or lose control.

Other distractions... If you are worried about your finances, your relationship, a family member, your job or any of life's many distractions, you will find it challenging to focus on the sexual act. Every distraction you have contributes to your inability to focus correctly and makes you less able to control your sexual experiences.

The main factor in sexual problems is incorrect focus which means you are focusing on the wrong thing, at the wrong time - and accidentally activating the wrong program in your brain!

Learning the correct order of how your brain works (in layman's terms) can enable you to eradicate episodes of premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and being unable to orgasm - so you can gain control over the sexual act.

Jacqui Olliver

The Technique Modifier at End the Problem

Providing the missing link for solving sex problems and gaining sexual mastery, Jacqui is the "go to" person for doctors and relationship therapists to send clients to, to solve sexual dysfunction and sexual performance issues. 

Sessions available online via Skype and in her clinic in Auckland, New Zealand.

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